Women put a great deal of importance on cosmetics, mascara
and lipstick to make themselves attractive. They feel good about themselves
when they are all dolled-up with cosmetics. Just hearing someone say, "you
look nice today", can make their day. Yes, cosmetics, mascara and lipstick
have become basic necessities for well dressed women. In fact, most women do
not feel that they are good looking without makeup. They feel they will be
adversely judged if they do not look pretty. Is there some truth to this? Does
society put such emphasis on appearance?
Even though looks shouldn't matter, the question arises-do
good looking people get treated with favoritism? Do they tend to have greater
advantages in life? For example, would a stranger be more inclined to come to
the aid of a woman who is very attractive? Might she receive better service at
the auto shop? Simply because she is good looking?
An experiment was conducted in New York city. Two women were
given folders filled with papers. They were told to drop them on a busy
sidewalk and observe what would happen. Would anyone help them? When the
attractive woman dropped her folder, suddenly people immediately came to help.
Then she observed the other "average looking" woman drop her folder.
She was saddened when nobody came to her friend's assistance.
Why
this differential treatment? Is this strictly a cultural phenomenon? Do we
learn this from observing and imitating others? Well, studies show that babies
will look more intently and longer at prettier faces. If infants could not
possibly be influenced to be biased at this tender age, then we must somehow be
hard-wired, rather than conditioned, to respond more favorably to more
attractive people.
What
can we do about it?
If
it truly is an intrinsic quality of humans to show a more favorable disposition
to more attractive people, then there is very little we can do about it. All
the rebellion in the world won't change human nature. If someone pays us a
compliment by telling us how nice we look, would we chastise them? Would we
question why they show partiality? No, rather, we would be grateful for this
compliment and view it as a human kindness.
How
to accept this ugly truth?
It
will be easier for us to accept this human tendency if we admit that we
ourselves at times are partial to this kind of admiration. Depending on if it
is to our advantage or not. Favorable when it is to our advantage;
not-favorable when we are at the short end of the stick. We must be realistic
and remember that a person's physical attractiveness, just like their personality,
impacts every individual literally from birth to death. As unfair as at that
may be, it's reality. We can never change that. The best thing that we can do
is change our attitude, learn from others and use it to our advantage.
How to use it to our advantage?
Movie stars are usually renowned for their good looks. To
them, their appearance is a top priority. This is because their livelihood
depends on it. In fact, some are noted to say, "It is better to look good,
than to feel good!" Although, we may view this as an inordinate emphasis
on vanity, in reality, it may not be. Think about it! Would they have achieved
stardom in show-business due to their excellent health? Of course not! Image is
everything in their world. They just know how to project their image to the
best of their advantage. We must learn to do the same.
What can we learn from movie stars?
If movie stars put their best foot forwards, wouldn't we
gain limited success by applying their thinking? Consider this-just because a
movie star is naturally good looking, doesn't cause her to not wear makeup. No,
she will actually put emphasis on it. Consulting makeup artists to achieve her
best natural look. Accentuating the positive, and making negative features less
noticeable. Their livelihood and reputation depends on their taking every
advantage to look their very best, on camera and off.
How to capitalize on your looks?
Movie stars are privileged to employ the efforts of various
makeup artists to achieve their best look. This gives a fresh perspective on
what may look better. However, most women who are not in show business, have
only done their own makeup application. As a habit, they may be using
unfavorable colors and application methods. If you feel like you need a new
perspective, why not consult a makeup artist? Their fresh approach and greater
experience, might be just what you need to accentuate your best facial
features. It is common for women to consult their hair-dressers for a new
look-why not do the same with a makeup artist?
How natural cosmetics can help?
Wouldn't it be nice to be able to just accentuate positive
facial features and not have to cover up imperfections. Well, the truth is many
skin problems are actually a result of makeup! Most makeup products contain
chemicals that irritate the skin and cause blemishes, discoloration, redness
and dryness. Instead of covering up facial flaws with synthetic blends of
makeup, why not try to correct these flaws by the use of natural cosmetics? You
will be surprised how much better your skin will look and feel. Also you will
not need to wear as much foundation and makeup! This will save you time, money,
and you will be able to concentrate on accentuating positives!
Yes, looks do matter! We do live in a society that puts a
great deal of emphasis on appearance. Without cosmetics, society views women as
not fully dressed. We can't change that. But we can take advantage of this. By
wearing cosmetics in a way that accentuates our appearance, cosmetics can
actually open doors that may otherwise be closed.
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